You & I Can Be We: A Free Talk About Work & Relationships | Berkeley

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“When we invest our care in others, our positive feelings grow and spread; others respond with their love, and the richness of this shared experience uplifts the quality of life everywhere.” – Tarthang Tulku, Skillful Means

When people come together as ‘We,’ mutual trust frees you from the narrow self-protective and contentious concerns that are so common when relating as ‘You and me’. ‘We’ can share love, and the love you share can extend to others. However, ‘We’ is not stable, and when contention separates the people involved, they revert to ‘You and I.’ The usual mode for stabilizing ‘We’ is ‘We against they:’ we unite in opposition to outsiders, and coalesce through the shared purposes. The contention among people has faded, but contention against outsiders has taken its place.

Nyingma Institute Instructor and former dean, Barr Rosenberg, shows that ‘We’ is readily accessible without requiring ‘We against them,’ and that the simple joy of We’ can serve as the stabilizing force.

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